Important Communication tips for couples

Having good relationship with a partner or spouse can be a major role in personal and professional success and proper communication is essential for a long term trusting relationship. Often people do not have the time to communicate with their partner because of their busy schedule and lifestyle, like travelling on business or work, working overtime due to business requirement. At times, one person is so worried about certain other work related issues, that he or she does not listen properly when their partner is speaking to them.However this should be avoided to the extent possible as it will affect the relationship. Some communication tips for couples interested in a long term relationship with each other are discussed.

It is important to give complete attention to the partner, when he or she wishes to communicate to understand the issues being discussed with the partner fully. Many people are busy with other activities like watching television, playing games or doing some work when communicating and do not hear what the partner is telling them clearly, resulting in miscommunication. So all other activities should be halted for some time, so that the person can concentrate on what is being told by his or her partner. It is also important to maintain eye contact while communicating, to check how the other person is reacting to the information being provided.

Often while communicating, the couple may be interrupted by children, friends, relatives and business associates, so it is difficult to convey the message or discuss the matter. So it is recommended that while discussing important issues or topics, the couple should find a private place, where no one will interrupt their discussion as people sometimes forget some issues, when they are interrupted. It is also important to listen to the partner completely, and avoid interrupting the discussion with queries which may prevent the partner from conveying the message completely, and the partner may also feel upset, thinking that it is an indication of lack of interest.

It is often easy to jump to conclusions based on half knowledge especially if a person is suspicious by nature, and early in the relationship. To communicate well, both partners should not presume anything without getting complete details of a particular issue , and should ask for clarifications from their partner if they require additional information on the topic. While asking for additional information, it is advisable to have a positive approach and not ask any question in an accusing manner as the partner may get offended, and it may affect the relationship. Also it is important to ensure that the reply does not criticize what the partner or spouse has said earlier, as most people are feeling offended when they are being criticized.

Building a long term trusting relationship takes a lot of time and effort from both the partners, so while communicating they should be supportive of each other to cement their relationship. Criticizing or passing negative comments can offend the partner and damage the relationship. It is also recommended that the couple agrees to spend some time together alone regularly, at least weekly, so that the partners can communicate with each other to update each other with the latest developments in their life, and also any issue which is likely to affect their relationship, like job change, travel, event, or a new friendship. Regular communication is essential for developing and maintaining a long term loving and trusting relationship for every couple.

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